How to Constructively Handle the Ending of a Relationship

How to Break Up When a Relationship Is Over
The question often is, "How can I call it quits with my partner in a constructive way?" First, end a relationship because you are following your inner knowing, not because you’re in the midst of an argument, emotional meltdown, or have specific topics that need resolution.

How The Language We Use Entrenches Inequalities

How The Language We Use Entrenches Inequalities
We live in a society in which inequality is entrenched and increasing – in this context, words can have real and pernicious effects. This is particularly true of the way we speak about inequality itself.

How To Spot A Liar

On any given day we're lied to from 10 to 200 times, and the clues to detect those lie can be subtle and counter-intuitive.

How To Say No Without Feeling Guilty

How To Say No Without Feeling Guilty
To build up your courage for those really difficult "no's," start small. Practice saying no in non-threatening encounters where there isn't much at stake. Little by little, stretch yourself by saying no in more challenging circumstances.

The Do's and Don'ts of Empathy

The Do's and Don'ts of Empathy
Empathy is everywhere. In many ways, empathy is the social glue that holds everybody together. Empathy is a social experience that involves feeling external emotional energy to the point of mirroring an emotion and taking it into one’s own experience.

The Universality of A Good Story: The World According to Rumi

The Universality of A Good Story: The World According to Rumi
The universality of a good story serves to demonstrate that we’re not so different from our counterparts across the globe, which in turn prompts us to empathize with the “other” to the extent that we will eventually feel as the “other”; thus, respect and empathy are the inevitable by-products of this process.

How Does False Information Spread Online?

How Does False Information Spread Online?
Last summer the World Economic Forum (WEF) invited its 1,500 council members to identify top trends facing the world, including what should be done about them.

The Question You Should Never Ask Women

The Question You Should Never Ask Women – Period

Are you ever around women who seem frustrated, upset or irritated? Have you ever asked one of them if she was on her period or perhaps been tempted to inquire?

The Spirit in All Things... and the Entire World

The Spirit in All ThingsIt may surprise you to learn that things that we typically think of as “objects” or “things” have consciousness, spirit, a life force or intelligence that can be felt, sensed, and communicated with. We know through quantum physics that there is intelligence, consciousness, and awareness in and through everything…

Communication Skills: Shifting Between Emo­tional and Mental Communication

Communication Skills: Shifting Between Emo­tional and Mental CommunicationWe can effortlessly get lost in emotions socially, so it’s both wise and courageous to hone the ability of shifting between emo­tional and mental communication with others. Let’s explore a few methods for us to keep in mind when braving the necessity of human communication.

Communicating with Animals: Why and How

Communicating with Animals: Why and HowFirst, let’s establish why we would want to talk to animals. People all have their own reasons, but essentially, it can help to answer a lot of important questions, not only for you but for the animal, too. It also raises your awareness of all animals collectively. We need to learn to honor all creatures, no matter how insignificant they seem to us.

10 Rules Of Email That Will Reduce Your Stress Levels

10 Rules Of Email That Will Reduce Your Stress Levels

Email and smart phones can be stressful. Academics are calling this constant work connection technostress”. Consequently, many European countries are now offering employees the “right to disconnect”.

Think Direct Eye Contact Makes Someone Trustworthy?

Think Direct Eye Contact Makes Someone Trustworthy? We usually interpret someone looking us straight in the eye during an interaction as a sign of trustworthiness. In fact it can be rather unsettling when someone avoids eye contact.

Saying no is hard. These communication tips make it easy.

• Give yourself permission to say "no" to things. Saying yes to everything is a fast way to burn out. • Learn to say no in a way that keeps the door of opportunity open: No should never be a one-word

How Words Affect The Way We Think

How Words Affect The Way We Think
Have you ever worried in your student years or later in life that time may be starting to run out to achieve your goals?

The Power of Listening and Observing

The Power of Listening and Observing
There is nothing wrong with setting goals, making plans, and then moving into action! Having a sense of direction and actively moving forward in that direction are essential if you want to make a meaningful difference in the world. However, telling life what it has to be and then doing whatever it takes to make that happen can significantly limit our possibilities. It can also lead to a lot of unnecessary pressure and stress.

Sacred Partnership: Letting Our Love Flow Into The World

Sacred Partnership: Letting Our Love Flow Into The World
Today, I am committed to spending every day that Charlie and I are together being kind, caring, considerate and loving. There has been enough pain, fear, and suffering. I am determined to see how much beauty and love I can create. And every day, I say a prayer of gratitude for having my life, my health, a devoted husband, my children, grandchildren, friends, and work that I love.

Being On The Same Page: A Human Being Cannot Exist As An Island

Being On The Same Page: A Human Being Cannot Exist As An Island
The truth is that a human being cannot exist as an island. We cannot thrive alone. We don’t want to be excluded. The truth is, we desperately want to belong to each other. And the highest truth of all is that in a universe where oneness is the highest truth of all, there is nothing in this universe that we don’t belong with and there is nothing in existence that doesn’t belong with us.

3 Ways To Be Smart On Social Media

3 Ways To Be Smart On Social Media

This past year, many people deleted their social media accounts following revelations about privacy violations on social media platforms and other concerns related to hate speech.

How Good Arguments Can Stop Extremism

How Good Arguments Can Stop ExtremismMany of my best friends think that some of my deeply held beliefs about important issues are obviously false or even nonsense.

What Aristotle Can Teach Us About Trump's Rhetoric

What Aristotle Can Teach Us About Trump's RhetoricFrom Franklin D. Roosevelt’s fireside chats to Ronald Reagan’s reputation as the “great communicator” to Barack Obama’s soaring oratory to Donald Trump’s Twitter use, styles of presidential communication have varied over time.

Listening to Ourselves Speak... Are We Being Mindful?

Listening to Ourselves Speak... Are We Being Mindful?If we could listen to ourselves as we converse, we would probably be astounded at how often we speak mindlessly. We are so taken up with being the speaker that, quite innocently perhaps, we make insensitive comments, speak inaccurately, or talk too much, hardly aware...

How Artificial Intelligence Can Make Us Better At Expressing Ourselves

How Artificial Intelligence Can Make Us Better At Expressing Ourselves
Argument and debate form the cornerstones of civilised society and intellectual life. Processes of argumentation run our governments, structure scientific endeavour and frame religious belief. So should we worry that new advances in artificial intelligence are taking steps towards equipping computers with these skills?

Facebook Posts that Use These Words Can Predict Depression

Facebook Posts that Use These Words Can Predict Depression
Researchers have created an algorithm that analyzes social media posts to find linguistic markers for depression. In any given year, depression affects more than six percent of the adult population in the United States—some 16 million people—but fewer than half receive the treatment they need.

Taking the Risk to Listen and Be Heard with the Heart

Are You Taking the Risk to Hear & Be Heard?
We may think that because of the development of the ability to see and hear into the far reaches of space that we must be quite advanced in the field of communication. But all this has little effect on our ability to listen with our heart...

The Art of Speaking Up and Taking Charge of Your Life

The Art of Speaking Up and Taking Charge of Your Life
Both men and women have to learn to speak up in order to take charge of their lives and cultivate meaningful relationships! This applies to school, work, business, family, and social events. As scary as it can seem at first, I guarantee that speaking up will bring copious rewards and breakthrough moments.

Can You Tell Fact From Fiction In The News?

Can You Tell Fact From Fiction In The News?Have you clicked through to this article from your news feed? Are you checking it on your phone? More of us are consuming news online, and increasingly we’re turning to social media for news. Social media platforms are now the main source of news for Australians aged 18 to 24.

How Light and Life Always Guide Us Home

How Light and Life Always Guide Us Home
When I moved into a rented cottage on Maui, Hawaii, some years ago, I found a little Russian Blue cat with gray fur and yellow eyes sitting on the porch staring at me. I learned that she was feral and that my neighbor Koa called her Pepper, and that she came by around the same time every day.

Sacred Speech and Silence: From the Heart and to the Soul

Sacred Speech and Silence: From the Heart and to the Soul
We spend much of our time talking about trivial matters and practical ones -- the weather, plans for the day, routine office events, frivolous gossip, the next technological miracle, etc. So little of our conversation addresses our passions, loves, emotions, dreams, or our creative insights...

How To Know If An Online Discussion Is Going To Get Nasty

How To Know If An Online Discussion Is Going To Get Nasty
Researchers have created a model to predict which civil online conversations might take a turn and derail. After analyzing hundreds of exchanges between Wikipedia editors, the researchers developed a computer program that scans for warning signs in participants’ language at the start of a conversation...

Business for Lovers and Authentic Communicators

Business for Lovers and Authentic Communicators
I invite you to extend your circle of authentic conversations to include not just lovers, but people you encounter in situations that appear to be routine, boring, or mundane. A master teacher told me that one of the secrets of success is to “take whatcha got and make whatcha want.” 

The Four Communication Rules and Four Main Violations

The Four Communication Rules and Four Main Violations
After thirty-five years in private psychotherapy practice and decades of studying and teaching, I've found all good communication boils down to just four simple rules. Whether it's with our spouse, our kids or our boss, mastering these concepts will have us communicating with anyone about any topic, effectively and lovingly.

Why Humor Is Good For You If You Do It Right

Why Humor Is Good For You If You Do It Right
Humor isn’t always useful or beneficial for reaching our goals, new research suggests. Research from the UA's Eller College of Management suggests that humor is a good thing in certain situations, but its effectiveness depends on your end goal.

Why People Who Live In Diverse Neighborhoods Are More Helpful

People Who Live In Diverse Neighborhoods Are More Helpful
Whether or not diversity is a good thing is still a topic of much debate. Though many businesses tout the benefits of diversity, American political scientist Robert Putnam holds that diversity causes people to hunker down, creating mistrust in communities.

The Power of the Circle Improves the Quality of Our Connections

The Power of the Circle Improves the Quality of Our Connections
Most people would agree that connection is a basic human need. Yet these days, it can be hard to come by. Vivek Murthy, Surgeon General of the United States from 2014 to 2017, claims that “Loneliness is a growing health epidemic.”

How To Talk About Politics With Your Family

How To Talk About Politics With Your Family

Talking politics with people who you disagree with is always tricky, but it’s especially hard when those people are your family or closest friends.

Why Is It So Stressful To Talk Politics With The "Other Side"?

Tomb of the Ribaudo family, monumental cemetery of Genoa, Italy, famous for the cover of the single of the English band Joy Division's " Love will tear us apart".
People disagree all the time, but not all disagreements lead to the same levels of stress. Even though people can be passionate about their favorite sport teams, they can argue about which basketball team is the best without destroying friendships.

The Long Tradition Of Women Being Told To Shut Up

The Long Tradition Of Women Being Told To Shut Up
Professor Mary Beard’s latest book Women & Power: A Manifesto is a short, sharp analysis of women in the West and their ongoing struggles for a voice in the public domain.

Practicing The Art Of High-Quality Connections

Practicing The Art Of High-Quality Connections
Practicing the art of connection in small, seemingly insignificant everyday actions is the key to being able to utilize it when you’re confronting a challenge with someone at work or a crisis in any relationship. As you explore building rapport with cashiers, waiters, and others, you’ll be setting the stage for greater skill in building the relationships that matter the most...

To Really Choose a Man

To Really Choose a Man
To really love a man is to choose him over and over again. It’s not enough to say marriage vows one time, though that is certainly important. The relationship is deepened if you let him know often that you would choose him all over again if given the choice.

How You Can Use Color To Communicate How You Feel

How You Can Use Color To Communicate How You Feel
When people are sad they are often said to be “blue”. Jealousy is implied if someone is described as being “green with envy”.

Minding Our Words and Saying What We Really Mean

Minding Our Words and Saying What We Really Mean
Telepathy is the language of communication in the spiritual realm. Imagine knowing the thoughts of all the people around you and having all your thoughts revealed without speaking. No one could manipulate or pretend to be other than who they are. All our motivations, fears, and loves would be exposed.

Are You More Likely To Deny The Truth In Your Second Language?

Are You More Likely To Deny The Truth In Your Second Language?Whether you’re speaking in your native tongue, or in another language, being understood and believed is fundamental to good communication. After all, a fact is a fact in any language, and a statement that is objectively true should just be considered true, whether presented to you in English, Chinese or Arabic.

Accessing The Power of Silent Communication and Love

Accessing The Power of Silent Communication and LoveI have come to believe, through watching the etheric state, that we are all in silent subliminal dialogue with each other. I've observed the flashes of energy that pass back and forth between people, and I've seen people react to thoughts that are projected toward them. Thoughts jump...

How To Get Your Message Across In Just 60 Seconds

How To Get Your Message Across In Just 60 SecondsDo you have something important to say, but find it hard to get people’s attention? Or have you tried to listen to someone who claims to have something interesting to impart, but they can’t explain it and the idea gets lost? (Or worse, you get bored and lose interest, even if they’re trying to describe their revolutionary new laser shark).

Why Does A Period In A Text Message Make You Sound Insincere Or Angry?

Why Does A Period In A Text Message Make You Sound Insincere Or Angry?When it comes to texting, the period, full stop, point – whatever you call it – has been getting a lot of attention. People have begun noticing slight changes to the way our smallest punctuation mark is deployed, from declarations that it’s going out of style to claims that it’s becoming angry.

I’ve Been There, Honey

I’ve Been There, HoneyThere's a huge difference between sympathy and empathy, between "I'm sorry" and "I've been there." It's not that sympathy is bad. It's just that empathy invites a connection that sympathy simply can't. Sympathy says, "I feel sorry for you." while empathy declares "I am you."

Conversation Tips for Surviving the Holidays

Conversation Tips for Surviving the HolidaysSometimes, you just can't relate to your relatives. Whether it's sports, politics, or past events, gathering around a dinner table during the holiday season can be a daunting prospect.

The Horror And Pleasure Of Misused Words

The Horror And Pleasure Of Misused WordsAmerican film director Judd Apatow once confessed to Stephen Colbert that he’d been mispronouncing his wife's name for nearly two decades. He’d been saying “Lez-lee”, while she pronounces it as “Less-lee”. When he asked her why she hadn’t corrected his mistake, she said she “thought he wouldn’t be able to make the adjustment”. 

Why Having The Sex Talk Early And Often With Your Kids Is Good For Them

Why Having The Sex Talk Early And Often With Your Kids Is Good For ThemParents may be uncomfortable initiating “the sex talk,” but whether they want to or not, parents teach their kids about sex and sexuality. Kids learn early what a sexual relationship looks like.

How Men And Women Really See Each Other

How Men And Women Really See Each OtherI saw two very different shows at the Edinburgh Fringe last week, two shows that dealt with the subject of how men and women talk about each other, in very different formats and with very different levels of success.

Being and Communicating with The Elders of the Seas

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From the first day of our trip, we were met by the whales. Although I had been in deep communication with the whales and had received instructions for the structure and practices for the trip in the year prior our journey,  I was still blown away by the magnitude of what we experienced.

Millennial Bashing In Medieval Times: Same Old, Same Old?

Millennial Bashing In Medieval Times: Same Old, Same Old?In Sir Thomas Malory’s ‘Le Morte d'Arthur,’ a character complains that young people are too sexually promiscuous. 14th- and 15th-century texts hold a lesson for the 21st century. Anxieties about “kids these days” are misguided, not because nothing changes, but because historical change cannot be predicted. 

Learning To Communicate Honestly With Others

Learning To Communicate Honestly With Others: First Be Honest With YourselfWhat does it take to communicate honestly with other people? First of all, it takes knowing your own mind. But when it comes to communicating honestly with others, knowing yourself isn’t enough. Communicating with others is a skill – but not necessarily a skill we’re born with!

How To Be Who You Are By Expressing Your Truth

How To Be Who You Are By Expressing Your TruthPart of self-expression is claiming your originality. You are unique and special and you should tell the world who you are! One of the good ways social media has helped our culture is to encourage originality. 

How To Use The Three Bridges to Create Joy, Love, and Peace

How To Use The Three Bridges to Create Joy, Love, and PeaceSometimes it's obvious what emotion a person is dealing with. Other times it's not. With just a little practice, you'll be able to recognize the emotions underlying other people's demeanor, words, and actions. And rather than getting sucked into a knee-jerk reaction to their abrupt tone, negativity, or finger-pointing tirade, you can get to the heart of the matter and extend a communication "bridge."

Why Our Eyes Give Away What We’re Feeling Inside

Why Our Eyes Give Away What We’re Feeling InsideWhy are our eyes so expressive? It started as a universal reaction to environmental stimuli, new research suggests, and evolved to communicate emotion.

Recognizing and Honoring Uniqueness by Calling Animals And Humans By Name

Recognizing and Honoring Uniqueness by Calling Animals And Humans By NameIn the 1990s, many of the equestrians I encountered believed that ani­mals were incapable of thought and emotion. “It’s all instinct,” one of my trainers told me whenever I brought up anecdotal evidence to the contrary. Some of the local ranchers insisted that, unlike dogs, horses weren’t smart enough to recognize their own names.

How Does Culture Influence Our Communication and Body Language

Culture: The Big External Influence in Communication and Body LanguageAll animals have a culture and a language associated with that culture. Whether the language contains words or some other vocalization, all of these cultures will include body language. For example, horses are limited in vocabulary to a series of soft snickerings...

What It Takes to Change Hearts and Minds

What It Takes to Change Hearts and MindsTo get someone’s support, you need more than just facts. The most effective method is aligning communication about your cause with the most deeply-held values and aspirations of your friends, relatives, neighbors, and fellow citizens.

Why Do Men and Women Feel Things Differently?

Men and Women Feel Things DifferentlyMany studies have shown that women's brains are wired differently from men's so they can both feel and recall both positive and negative emotions more strongly than men. But, just because women seem to be more comfortable in the emotional realm, does not mean that men don't, can't, or shouldn't thrive in it...

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