Collaborative Problem Solvers Are Made Not Born

Collaborative Problem Solvers Are Made Not Born

Challenges are a fact of life. Whether it’s a high-tech company figuring out how to shrink its carbon footprint, or a local community trying to identify new revenue sources, people are continually dealing with problems

Want To Become A Better Person?

Want To Become A Better Person?

Travelling offers new experiences and can open people’s minds. It allows you to get out of your daily groove – of work, commuting, housework and cooking – to think about the things that really matter and enjoy some quality time in a different place.

The Best That Can Happen

The Best That Can HappenWhen I ask clients who face a difficult situation, “What’s the worst thing that could happen?” they usually have a well-prepared list of possible dark outcomes. When I ask, “What’s the best thing that could happen?” they usually take a while to think of an answer. They are so practiced in pessimism that optimism hasn’t crossed their mind.

Why Time Seems To Go By More Quickly As We Get Older

Why Time Seems To Go By More Quickly As We Get Older

When we were children, the summer holidays seemed to last forever, and the wait between Christmases felt like an eternity. So why is that when we get older, the time just seems to zip by, with weeks, months and entire seasons disappearing from a blurred calendar at dizzying speed?

Embracing Uncertainty on The Long and Winding Road to Happiness

The Long and Winding Road to HappinessTwo dormant chemicals in the same container can co-exist uneventfully, then when a third property is added, this third chemical acts as a catalyst for creating a reaction when shaken or stirred. So it goes with self-improvement...

Reaching for the Joy is a Powerful Antidote to Fear and Anxiety

Reaching for the Joy is a Powerful Antidote to Fear and AnxietyA powerful antidote to the fear and anxiety sometimes stirred up by a health condition is joy. And sometimes joy can feel in short supply when dealing with health challenges. If we want joy, we have to actively reach for it. We’ll explore some ways to do that.

The Art of Believing and Holding On To Our Vision

The Art of Believing and Holding On To Our VisionOftentimes, in our life, we have doubts about the outcome of a situation... whether the doubt has to do with our own capabilities, or someone else's. Yet faith in ourselves is an integral part in succeeding... When we give up believing in ourselves, we give up trying.

Daring To Take Action and Stepping Into The Unknown

Daring To Take Action and Stepping Into The UnknownRealistic hope enables us to believe that we can cope with what lies ahead and gives us the courage to step into the unknown. Without being prepared to take a risk, we don’t make new discoveries about ourselves or what it means to be a human being, nor can we find the fulfillment and happiness we long for.

Is This The Way It’s Supposed To Be?

Is This The Way It’s Supposed To Be?This is the career I expected to have. This is the way I expected my nation to progress. This is the friend I expected you to be. This is how a book proposal or business plan should look. This is how a pop song or a concerto should sound. This is the way it’s supposed to be…

The Age of Separation: The Story of the People

04 27 the age of separation the story of the peopleMy childhood perceptions were part of a narrative I call the Story of the People, in which humanity was destined to create a perfect world through science, reason, and technology: to conquer nature, transcend our animal origins, and engineer a rational society.

Is Your Life Being Run by "Should"?

Is Your Life Run by "Should"?
The bummer about 'shoulds' is that when we are dominated by them, we are also dominated by the fear of being rejected or abandoned in some way, because that's the core emotional fear that activates many of them. These ongoing fears leave many of us drained and exhausted...

Being Your Own Therapist: From Self-Talk to Self-Healing

Being Your Own Therapist: From Self-Talk to Self-HealingThe results can often be dramatic when people start to love themselves, give up pretending, and really learn how to relax. Two processes can happen spontaneously even when you are not having professional treatment: catharsis and abreaction. It can be a little alarming, but you will feel better as a result of it.

Dare To Make Eye Contact With Others

Dare To Make Eye Contact With OthersDare to make eye contact with another. As the adage says, "The eyes are the window to the soul." Making eye contact is one of the most basic ways to share our inner light with another. Daring to communicate with someone in this simple way is...

How Your Smartphone Can Encourage Active Living

How Your Smartphone Can Encourage Active Living

Physical inactivity is the fourth leading risk factor for death globally and has reached the status of a global pandemic — a definition that is usually associated with infectious diseases like influenza.

An Easy Way To Change How You Feel

An Easy Way To Change How You Feel

Smiling really can make you feel happier, report researchers. The paper looked at nearly 50 years of data testing whether posing facial expressions can lead people to feel the emotions related to those expressions.

How To Create A New Story Based On Respect

Creating a New Story Based On RespectThe yearning that so many of us feel for a “return to the earth” can be seen as acknowledgment that something is lacking in our daily lives, and the fact that crucial elements of life are missing from mainstream culture.

Taking Inner Inventory: Who Do I Pretend To Be? What Do I Need?

Taking Inner Inventory: Who Do I Pretend To Be? What Do I Need?Ask yourself, "Who do I pretend to be?" Sometimes we become so immersed in who we think we are -- or who others imagine us to be -- that we begin to identify with the mask that we wear as we weave our way through the world.If we come to believe that we are our mask, then...

The Bubble: A Superhero Shield With Special Powers

The Bubble: A Superhero Shield With Special PowersPerhaps you’re feeling a little chaotic in your mind — or worrying about everything and losing sight of what is important and what isn’t. Hands up then, everyone! It is a very likely state for a lot of us as we can often feel that a lot of demands are put on us.

Pursuing Happiness for Tomorrow? Find Joy in Today

Pursuing Happiness for Tomorrow? Find Joy in TodayDuring my own transformation, I came face-to-face with all my needs, wants, patterns and beliefs and I learned to see them all, to dissect them, to untangle their root causes, and to weed my garden of life. It was during this time that I also experienced the difference between Joy and Happiness.

Conflicting Desires: Can You Have Whatever You Want?

Conflicting Desires: Can You Have Whatever You Want?If you have contradictory desire streams -- desires for two opposing things at the same time -- it becomes much more difficult for Nature to fulfill your desires. For example, you might think that you desire an ideal relationship, but if part of your brain is thinking, "Hah, you don't deserve that. It's never worked before.."

Become A Master Reframer – Seeing Negative Stuff Differently

Become A Master Reframer – Seeing Negative Stuff DifferentlyYou can turn negative situations on their head. This isn’t to say that bad or negative things don’t happen; rather that, if it does, you can look at what you can do about it by viewing things differently and looking for alternative meanings.

What Your Attention Is Upon, You Become

What Your Attention Is Upon, You BecomeWhen our three children were living with us, we had a family dinner each night. As we were eating, we always asked, “Tell us something good that happened to you today.” We all took turns telling something good that had happened. We wanted our children to focus first on the good in life.

How Is Your Sense of Personal Power Limited?

Is Your Sense of Personal Power Limited?Personal Power comes from within, from a strong and healthy sense of self. Your personal power includes several components: your self-esteem, how good you feel about yourself; your independence, how well you can decide on your own what is right for you to do; and your initiative...

Taming the Tiger: How to Safely Deal with Difficult Emotions

How to Cope with Difficult EmotionsEmotions cause trouble or create feelings of discomfort, but now is the time to find ways to work with emotions constructively, especially those that cause the most trouble. Many people cope with working with difficult emotions or emotional patterns by repressing them. 

How the World Works—Three Basic Energy Principles

How the World Works—Three Basic Energy PrinciplesEverything is energy. Energy in its pure form is neutral. It’s not good or bad, right or wrong, positive or negative. What gives energy a particular quality is how we engage with it and how we use it.

Do Humans Have A Need For Meaning and Life Purpose?

Existential Maturity and Our Human Need For Meaning and Life PurposeThere is no one meaning of life but rather a multitude of subjective life meanings, and there is no one purpose to life but rather a multitude of subjective life purposes. Each person must sort out her life purposes and life meanings, and proceed to make value-based meaning...

Helpful Keys To Help You Discover, Enjoy And Hold On To Happiness

Helpful Keys to Help You Discover, Enjoy & Hold On to HappinessDoes happiness arise by attaining a certain status, or by finding the love of your life? If you chase happiness in the things of this world, you will become disillusioned. No matter how much stuff you acquire, how much you are admired...

Freedom of Being: Heed the Call and Dare to Live

Freedom of Being: Heed the Call and Dare to LiveViktor E. Frankl, in his book, Man's Search for Meaning, recounts his experiences in a concentration camp during World War II. He maintains that though he remained a prisoner, his inner self would always be free. He always had the freedom to think whatever he wanted to think; a freedom no one could take from him.

Act with Kindness, Considering Everyone and Everything

Act with Kindness, Considering Everyone and EverythingKindness towards people means being considerate, friendly and generous. The opposite to kindness is intentionally causing harm. The Process rewards us for deeds of kindness, and corrects us for deeds of harm. There are always consequences for our actions.

Coming Out of the Cocoon: It's Time to Face Reality & Help Others

Coming Out of the Cocoon: It's Time to Face Reality & Help OthersShambhala training is based on developing gentleness and genuineness so that we can help ourselves and develop tenderness in our hearts. We no longer wrap ourselves in the sleeping bag of our cocoon. We feel responsible for ourselves, and we feel good taking responsibility.

How Failure Helps Build Kids' Resilience

How Failure Helps Build Kids' ResilienceBubble-wrapping children doesn’t work. They need to experience mild adversity, to know how to overcome it when they inevitably face it in life.

Do Not Give Up What You Want Most for What You Want Right Now

Do Not Give Up What You Want Most for What You Want Right NowThe most powerful influence on the human mind is our core beliefs about our identity, who we think we are. If you have a core belief that you are lazy or that the world is out to get you, no matter how much you try to be more productive or to feel safer in this world, you will sabotage your efforts to align with your core belief.

Why A Belief In Meritocracy Is False And Morally Wrong

Why A Belief In Meritocracy Is False And Morally Wrong
Meritocracy has become a leading social ideal. Politicians across the ideological spectrum continually return to the theme that the rewards of life – money, power, jobs, university admission – should be distributed according to skill and effort.

Trapped in Therapy? The Problem with Psychiatry and Psychotherapy

Trapped in Therapy? The Problem with Psychiatry and Psychotherapy
In the first year of training, which was mainly inpatient psychiatry, learning to treat patients, attending daily lectures, and having individual supervision, we also had a weekly group therapy session for all the trainees. This included residents from all the years of training, so it was a pretty big group, run by two psychiatrists.

When You Have A Critical Moment of Emotional Stress

When You Have A Critical Moment of Emotional Stress
Have any of you noticed that sometimes when you try to create something, certain obstacles will come up which question exactly what you're trying to create? I've wondered if this is some kind of test, you know, to see how bad I really want the creation.

About Self-Doubt: Whether You Think You Can or Think You Can't...

About Self-Doubt: Whether You Think You Can or Think You Can't...
Self-doubters tend to dismiss compliments and embrace criticisms. They focus — even highlight — their weaknesses, ensuring that others see their shortcomings as clearly as they do. Eleanor Roosevelt's clever one-liner "No one can make you feel inadequate without your permission" says it all.

Choosing to be Happy, Right Here, Right Now

Choosing to be Happy, Right Here, Right Now
Someone once said to me they didn't feel that being happy was a choice. They felt that no one decides to have a bad day. That everyone starts the day choosing to be happy, but that things happened along the way that were out of their control. While I agree that things do happen that are out of our control...

How Language Has Become A Tool For Social Exclusion

How Language Has Become A Tool For Social Exclusion
The soundtrack of our lives and the visual landscapes of our cities are multilingual. Languages, in their plurality, enrich our experience of the world and our creative potential.

How Nap Time For Teens Might Benefit Their Brains

How Nap Time For Teens Might Benefit Their Brains
Which is better for a teen who can’t get the recommended amount of rest: just 6.5 hours of sleep at night, or 5 hours at night plus a nap in the afternoon?

The Biggest Spiritual Challenge

The Biggest Spiritual Challenge
I always found spirituality, the disciplines of meditation and silence, very simple. My challenge was between activity and stillness. I always got off on the adrenaline trip of being active. That's why I've traveled around so much.

How Social Media Fantasies Can Demolish Your Confidence

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Facebook, Twitter and Instagram are loaded with pictures of people going to exotic places, looking like they are about to be on the cover of Vogue, and otherwise living a fairy-tale existence.

Balancing the Scales and Spending Our Allowance of Time Wisely

Balancing the Scales and Spending Our Allowance of Time Wisely
Balance in all things is the correct way to live. So how do we balance our scales to get the correct perspective of life? We must weigh up each situation that comes into our lives and balance our minds to understand what feels good and what doesn't. 

The Power of One: You Are Me and I Am You

The Power of One: You Are Me and I Am You
One of the more amazing and beautiful aspects of the internet is that it is becoming the most powerful tool ever to spread ideas instantaneously worldwide, including a growing sense of one world consciousness and our oneness with all life. Little by little, it is assisting us go beyond the old, tired dualistic vision of the world and to spread ever more widely and rapidly the non-dualist consciousness...

Four Problem Areas That Could Be Bringing You Down

 Four Problem Areas That Could Be Bringing You Down
Do you think your mood difficulties are linked to your childhood, your first romantic relationship, your choice to study one subject in college rather than another, the city you settled in, or your career path? Spending time in the past may help you to answer the question why, but it won’t give you the tools to feel better in the present.

What's Done Is Done: Be Here Now!

Be Here Now! What's Done Is Done!
Almost 50 years ago, Ram Dass published a book with the title "Be Here Now". It's still good advice. This reminder to be here now was brought to mind as I reflected on the general public's increased interest and acceptance of past-lives.

Why Air Pollution May Be Affecting How Happy You Are

Why Air Pollution May Be Affecting How Happy You Are

For decades now, GDP has been the standard measure of a nation’s well-being. But it is becoming clear that an economic boost may not be accompanied by a rise in individual happiness.

Mission Not Accomplished: Doubting Everything You Think You Know

Mission Not Accomplished: Doubting Everything You Think You Know
As a koan teaching tells us, “To touch the absolute is not yet enlightenment.” When these moments come, there is a tendency to think, “Aha, I’ve got it!” Yet, just as on one level this gratifying thought fills us with a sense of accomplishment and empowerment, on another level we can already feel it slipping away, as the moment passes...

Simple and Easy Ways to Reduce Stress

Simple and Easy Ways to Reduce Stress
You have probably seen the cartoon sketch that depicts stress as 'the overwhelming urge to choke the living #@*% out of someone who desperately deserves it'. While that depiction may be true, it certainly is not the only form of stress.

Journey Into The Unknown: Becoming Someone New On A Regular Basis

Journey Into The Unknown: Becoming Someone New On A Regular Basis
Life is a challenge. Utilizing your capabilities, pushing to become all you might be, is a relentless dare. But when you are alive, that is the homework that has been assigned to you. Regardless of the variety of "wings on your heart," the issue is the same for everyone. Push to...

A Mind-Boggling Discovery: The Mystics Were Right

A Mind-Boggling Discovery: The Mystics Were Right
We live in exciting times because Science—more specifically quantum physics—is proving what the Mystics and Metaphysicians throughout history have long proclaimed. We are bundles of information and energy, living in a swirling sea of infinite energy. We are in truth, Creatures of Light, as the Mystics long have described us.

Our Own Holy Grail Quest: Living the Choice

Living the Choice: Our Own Holy Grail Quest
We live in challenging and exciting times. Because the old gods are crumbling, and our old models are failing us, we can explore new ways of living, understanding ourselves, and growing that may result in opportunities that are more unique, personal, fulfilling, and loving than ever before.

How To Clean Your Way To Happiness

How To Clean Your Way To Happiness
Sydney’s first Muji store opened in 2015 and with it came attractive minimalism, simplicity, and functionality – a kind of consumption that was somehow about consuming less.

How To Discover Your Unhealthy Beliefs

How To Discover Your Unhealthy BeliefsVirtually every aspect of your daily life is impacted by unhealthy beliefs. Unhealthy beliefs have the power to impact your body, your emotions and your life circumstances. Therefore, by healing your unhealthy beliefs it is possible to cause positive changes within your body, your emotions and your life.

A Life Path Metaphor: Two Horses, A Carriage, A Driver, and A Passenger

A Life Path Metaphor: Two Horses, A Carriage, A Driver, and A PassengerThe Life Path is a kind of connecting thread that each human being follows during the course of his or her life. We can compare it to the script for a film or the “route map” for present-day rally enthusiasts. We move forward on this path by making use of the vehicle that is our physical body.

Life Cycles — From Nurturance to Letting Go

Life Cycles — From Nurturance to Letting GoOne day during meditation, a year after Werner moved out, I received guidance to get a temporary job in a plant nursery. That seemed unusual to me but I had learned to listen to my Guides since they always led me to something valuable.

The Road Forward: Developing The Habit of a Can Do Attitude

The Road Forward: Developing The Habit of a Can Do AttitudeWe humans are circadian creatures. Like the moon overhead and the ocean tides it governs, we live day-to-day on regular circuits of ebb and flow, departure and return. When we’re resolved to establish new habits of body and mind, the brain’s predisposition toward dailiness becomes a great ally.

Feeling Good About Ourselves No Matter What

Feeling Good About Ourselves No Matter WhatWhen we neglect ourselves in the mad rush to make a living, take care of business and raise our families, we die a little with each passing day. What have you done lately to nurture yourself, enhance your creativity and honor your soul?

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